Our experience at Relationship Counselling Kent has enabled hundreds of couples to successfully achieve what they set out to in their relationships. However, despite this, we never lose site of the fact that taking the decision to seek help and speak to someone else about the problems in your relationship, can sometimes be difficult; especially as one of you might be resistant to attending relationship counselling. However, rest assured; relationship counselling or marriage guidance is extremely powerful and not as daunting as people first might think. It’s also not about who is right or wrong, it’s about open discussion and helping you both achieve the outcome you want.
The feedback we receive here at Relationship Counselling Kent is that our couple counsellors have an exceptional ability to help all their clients feel quickly at ease. We understan that when you feel comfortable and relaxed it’s much easier to communicate and open-up, this enables your couple counsellor to quickly understand the particular issues you are facing from each individual perspective. Our Relationship therapists certainly won’t sit there silently waiting for you to speak, they will however, take an active part in conversation and in the process of recovery and change.
You will be in a safe, confidential non-judgemental environment where:-
You will both be asked what you would like to get out of the couples counselling sessions. Whether you would like to try and stay together, or perhaps like help in ending the relationship in an amicable fashion (it’s still important to go through the below process in order to be able do that) Or maybe, one or both of you are unsure about what you want at this stage and want to see how you feel after the marriage counselling – this is not a problem and is very common. We will work towards what you want, if you are not sure.
You will be each be given an equal opportunity to express what you feel the current issues are in the relationship and when you think they first began. At this point our relationship counsellors will more than likely ask you for some examples of a situation of when a certain type of behaviour hurt/upset or angered you. This allows more context to what you are trying to explain to your partner
As the couples therapy progresses, the aim is to encourage your partner to hear what you are saying, and vice versa, so you will both begin to see the bigger picture of what is going on between you.
You will be both be given help to really listen and try and understand each others points of view. A third party perspective can be really helpful here, because sometimes, it’s hard to see things clearly on your own when emotions are involved.
You will find out what is really important to you and learn how to manage your emotions. You will also be given the opportunity to find out how you can set limits/expectations over what behaviour you will and won’t accept from each other.
You will learn about each others differences and needs and agree on compromises going forward.
You will both gain new insights about yourselves and the other person and learn how to bring back intimacy and loving feelings.
When the sessions come to an end you will be given help and advice on how to keep the relationship on track if that’s the route you choose to take. You will always have the added reassurance of following up with a maintenance session at any time you choose.
Even after the first relationship counselling session most couples report to feeling a huge sense of relief that something is finally being done to bring about change in their relationship.
Problems we can help you with
Jealousy and Suspicion
Relationship Break Up’s or Divorce
Pre-Marital/Pre-Living Together Counselling
The Impact of Pornography
Dealing with the Death of a Partner
Infidelity or Affairs
Why use us?
Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.
BSC (hons) Psychology
(accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of kent.
We have multiple marriage counselling practices Kent conveniently located to make our relationship counselling services accessible throughout the county.
"My wife and I decided to seek marriage counselling Bexley with Louise after having experienced a few communication challenges. We have been married just under 2 years and really wanted to nip these issues in the bud.
The counselling was a real revelation. The whole experience was enlightening and we both found it to be very useful. Louise had a really experienced and specialised way in helping us to approach and deal with our challenges well. It certainly wasn't about blame or who was right or wrong, but it helped us understand how the other was feeling and how they processed thoughts.
We had just 4 or 5 sessions and are now looking forward to a long, happy and fulfilled marriage with much-improved communication skills. Thank you Louise! "
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you"
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))"
Rosalyn and Patrick
"Out of the blue my wife told me out of the blue that she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. This came as a complete shock to me. I had known that things weren’t great between us but I didn't know it had got that bad. I persuaded her to go to a marriage guidance but to be honest, it was a pretty awful experience. It was dark and depressing the counsellor didn't appear to be really listening to us and seemed to take sides so we both ended up feeling worse than ever.
We stopped going and things went from bad to worse and looked like they were heading for divorce, but I was determined not to give up. I found Relationship Counselling Kent website on Google and made an appointment to see Alison a couple counselling Maidstone and it was clear that her approach was completely different other counsellors. I called her straight away and left a message and she called me back that same day. We only spoke for 10 minutes but during that time she gave me more comfort and confidence in the fact that we could sort our marriage problems out, if ,we were both committed to doing so. Alison made me feel better in 10 minutes than the previous counsellor had done over several hours.
Alison seemed to intuitively understand what the problems were and what could be done about it and she went out of her way to book me in quickly due to the fact we were at crisis point.
During our first session Alison challenged us both around the thinking and behaviour that had led to us to be at this point. and helped us understand where as individuals we had gone wrong and how we could change things to make things work. Alison was kind and understanding but she also continually challenged and pushed us forward. We still have further sessions with her but she has already worked miracles for us. Day by day our relationship is getting better and better when a short time ago I was convinced it was over. I cannot thank Alison enough for saving my marriage and prevent me from losing my family"
Mr A – Maidsone Kent
"My wife point blank refused to seek help for our problems with marriage counselling because she saw this as a failure she didn't want to admit to. Neither of us wanted to separate but we wanted to feel happy again. But as much as I tried to persuade my wife to go to see Debbie at marriage counselling Bromley she wouldn't. When I called Debbie to ask her advice it was actually her who suggested that perhaps my wife might feel more comfortable if we had a session at our home. Although my wife was still hesitant she felt much more comfortable with this idea and it's helped us greatly. We didn't even realised how stale things were and how mundane our lives had become. Debbie inspired us with new vigour and understanding and we are both happier now and actually looking forward to our retirement together rather than dreading it"
Mr and Mrs Cobhurn – Bromley
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"
Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
"Hi Louise, you asked us if we would mind writing down what we felt the benefits of relationship counselling are so you can share that to help other people. We both thought long and hard about it and we are not sure we can answer that in a generic format because we feel it only worked for us because of you (sorry if that's a bit creepy but it's true!). From the moment we met you, you put us at ease. You had a way of making us open up and tell you things we had never told each other let alone anyone else! You helped us understand each other and ourselves and you never made us feel judged or uncomfortable and as I said to you on the phone last week now we have finished our sessions we will miss you in a strange sort of way. Thanks again for everything"
Elsie & Bernadette – Bexley Kent
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)
We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again"
Scott and Sue – Great Chart
Highly recommend - I contacted Relationship Counselling Kent for an appoinment with Sian at Couples Counselling Ashford because I was concerned that my reaction to the small irritating things my partner was doing was getting out of hand. I was anxious, angry and upset on a regular basis. I tried to blame him for a while but I started to realise it was me and not him. I saw Sian for a few months, once a week, and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was. This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, I'm more in control of my emotions, and much happier in my relationship. Sian was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me when I started to feel better”
Mrs T Albany
Having Sabine help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much.
Byron & Claire – Birchington
We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Tara made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time.
Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!
Mr & Mrs Donahue
When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Sian made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Sian helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems
Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy Maidstone but Alison put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Alison help we are closer than ever.
Hayley and John
I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at marriage counseling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Paul & Sue
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.