Our experienced marriage counselling or couples therapy has enabled hundreds of couples to successfully achieve what they set out to in their relationships . However despite this, we never lose site of the fact that taking the decision to seek help and speak to someone else about the problems in your relationship, can sometimes be difficult; especially as one of you might be resistant to attending relationship counselling. However, rest assured; Relationship Counselling or Marriage Guidance is extremely powerful and not as daunting as people first might think. It’s also not about who is right or wrong, it’s about open discussion and helping you both achieve the outcome you want.
The feedback we receive is that our couple counsellors have an exceptional ability to make all their clients feel quickly at ease. We understand, that When you feel comfortable and relaxed it’s much easier to communicate and open-up, this enables your couple counsellor to quickly understand the particular issues you are facing from each individual perspective. Our Relationship therapists certainly won’t sit there silently waiting for you to speak, they will however, take an active part in conversation and in the process of recovery and change.
You will be in a safe, confidential non-judgemental environment where:-
- You will both be asked what you would like to get out of the couples therapy sessions. Whether you would like to try and stay together, or perhaps like help in ending the relationship in an amicable fashion (it’s still important to go through the below process in order to be able do that) Or maybe, one or both of you are unsure about what you want at this stage and want to see how you feel after the marriage counselling – this is not a problem and is very common. We will work towards what you want, if you are not sure.
- You will be each be given an equal opportunity to express what you feel the current issues are in the relationship and when you think they first began. At this point our relationship counsellors will more than likely ask you for some examples of a situation of when a certain type of behaviour hurt/upset or angered you. This allows more context to what you are trying to explain to your partner
- As the couples therapy progresses, the aim is to encourage your partner to hear what you are saying, and vice versa, so you will both begin to see the bigger picture of what is going on between you.
- You will be both be given help to really listen and try and understand each others points of view. A third party perspective can be really helpful here, because sometimes, it’s hard to see things clearly on your own when emotions are involved.
- You will find out what is really important to you and learn how to manage your emotions. You will also be given the opportunity to find out how you can set limits/expectations over what behaviour you will and won’t accept from each other.
- You will learn about each others differences and needs and agree on compromises going forward.
- You will both gain new insights about yourselves and the other person and learn how to bring back intimacy and loving feelings.
- When the sessions come to an end you will be given help and advice on how to keep the relationship on track if that’s the route you choose to take. You will always have the added reassurance of following up with a maintenance session at any time you choose.
Even after the first relationship counselling session most couples report to feeling a huge sense of relief that something is finally being done to bring about change in their relationship.