'Stuck' Relationships - Relationship Counselling Kent
Here at Relationship Counselling Kent our couple counsellors are fully aware that effective communication is the vital ingredient for a successful relationship. However, sometimes couples find themselves unable to communicate and they become stuck in a state of arguing and unhappiness, struggling to resolve the issues between them. Sometimes this can lead to or one or both parties giving up the will or motivation to make things work between them.
Experience has shown that more problems are caused in relationships by things that aren’t said, than things that are said, as long as they are said in the right way. One of the most common reasons we find the leads to couples becoming ‘stuck’ and resenting each other, is a lack of honesty. Honesty is not the same as lying, it’s about not telling the truth – not telling the truth about how you really feel and what has or is bothering you about your partners behaviour and why.
People often avoid being really honest through a fear of conflict or a belief they won’t get listed to and therefore things get pushed under the carpet, either by one of both parties, often for years. Telling the truth effectively, is about taking responsibility for how you feel and talking to your partner calmly and openly. It’s not about attributing blame or getting angry. Human beings only listen and respond well when we don’t feel attacked or criticised
Our couple counsellors at Relationship Counselling Kent will help you both find an effective way of explaining to eachother what is not working for you from your perspective. Some of the most common relationships problems that either get left unsaid or are said in an angry or moany outburst are:- a feeling listened to, feeling unappreciated or taken for granted. Anger or agression, sulking, lack of sex, intimacy, different values around children and money and spending too little quality time together.
If any of this resonates with you then perhaps it’s time to pull up the carpet and get everything out on the table by seeking some professional help to do so. That way your relationship can move forward much more positively and with a new understanding.
Problems we can help you with
Jealousy and Suspicion
Relationship Break Up’s or Divorce
Dealing with the Death of a Partner
Infidelity or Affairs
Pre-Marital/Pre-Living Together Counselling
The Impact of Pornography
Why use us?
Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.
BSC (hons) Psychology
(accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of kent.
We have multiple marriage counselling practices Kent conveniently located to make our relationship counselling services accessible throughout the county.
Having Sian help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much.
Byron & Claire
We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sian made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time.
Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!
Mr & Mrs Donahue
When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Sian made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Sian helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems
Although my partner was reluctant to go for counselling Alison put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Alison help we are closer than ever.
Hayley and John
I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at Relationship Counselling Kent and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Paul & Sue
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.