'Stuck' Relationships - Relationship Counselling Kent

Relationship Counselling & Marriage Guidance Near Ashford, Kent

Here at Relationship Counselling Kent our couple counsellors are fully aware that effective communication is the vital ingredient for a successful relationship. However, sometimes couples find themselves unable to communicate and they become stuck in a state of arguing and unhappiness, struggling to resolve the issues between them. Sometimes this can lead to or one or both parties giving up the will or motivation to make things work between them.

Experience has shown that more problems are caused in relationships by things that aren’t said, than things that are said, as long as they are said in the right way. One of the most common reasons we find the leads to couples becoming ‘stuck’ and resenting each other, is a lack of honesty. Honesty is not the same as lying, it’s about not telling the truth – not telling the truth about how you really feel and what has or is bothering you about your partners behaviour and why.

People often avoid being really honest through a fear of conflict or a belief they won’t get listed to and therefore things get pushed under the carpet, either by one of both parties, often for years. Telling the truth effectively, is about taking responsibility for how you feel and talking to your partner calmly and openly. It’s not about attributing blame or getting angry. Human beings only listen and respond well when we don’t feel attacked or criticised

Our couple counsellors at Relationship Counselling Kent will help you both find an effective way of explaining to eachother what is not working for you from your perspective. Some of the most common relationships problems that either get left unsaid or are said in an angry or moany outburst are:- a feeling listened to, feeling unappreciated or taken for granted. Anger or agression, sulking, lack of sex, intimacy, different values around children and money and spending too little quality time together.

If any of this resonates with you then perhaps it’s time to pull up the carpet and get everything out on the table by seeking some professional help to do so. That way your relationship can move forward much more positively and with a new understanding.

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