It’s very common for a relationship to go through phases where one or both partners lose interest in sex.
However, when a relationship loses it passion and intimacy long term, it can cause problems in your relationship. Perhaps your relationship lost its intimacy? Does your partner pull away from you perhaps and doesn’t want to cuddle let alone have sex? Do you feel confused, hurt and rejected because of it? Perhaps you are the one who doesn’t want to be intimate with your partner? Maybe you don’t feel loved or respected by your partner, so the last thing you feel like doing is being physically close?
Intimacy is not just about sex, it’s also about the closeness a couple share in a romantic relationship that is different to other relationships.
This can be simply down to the fact that sexual interest tends to ebb and flow over time. It’s not unusual for partners to have different sex drives at different stages of their relationship.
You may have reached a stage in your relationship where you love your Modafinil partner, but life together has just become predictable, stale and boring. Therefore, the intimacy has diminished or completely disappeared. This can leave either one or both of you feeling upset, hurt and rejected. If this is left too long it can become a difficult or embarrassing subject to broach.
The passion you may have once felt has gone and with intimacy on the decline, feelings of resentment can start to diminish.
This usually happens gradually over a period of time where perhaps over-familiarity or complacency has set in.
Sometimes it begins after you have children and your priorities change. Or it could be down to poor communication or too many arguments. Sometimes it can be a lack of physical attraction or needs not being met. Perhaps selfish behaviours may play a role or one or both of you just don’t feel appreciated any more.
Our relationship therapists will help you both talk through your feelings on the situation. We will encourage you to be honest, particularly if you are the one who is less interested in intimacy with your partner Modafinil Online anymore. It’s only fair that you partner understands what is behind it to ease any hurt
If you feel your partner is causing the problem, by being honest and putting them in the picture allows them the opportunity to change things if they can.
If you would like to come and talk to one of our relationship therapists about the problems with intimacy in your relationship contact us today. Request an appointment
Debbie Fletcher - Bromley "We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas"
Debbie Fletcher - Bromley "Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view"
Louise Jones - Bexley "My wife and I decided to seek marriage counselling Bexley with Louise after having experienced a few communication challenges. We have been married just under 2 years and really wanted to nip these issues in the bud" "The counselling was a real revelation. The whole experience was enlightening and we both found it to be very useful. Louise had a really experienced and specialised way in helping us to approach and deal with our challenges well. It certainly wasn't about blame or who was right or wrong, but it helped us understand how the other was feeling and how they processed thoughts" "We had just 4 or 5 sessions and are now looking forward to a long, happy and fulfilled marriage with much-improved communication skills. Thank you Louise! "
Sian Jones - Ashford "We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you!
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Alison Day - Maidstone "Out of the blue my wife told me that she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. This came as a complete shock to me. I had known that things weren’t great between us but I didn't know it had got that bad. I persuaded her to go to a marriage guidance but to be honest, it was a pretty awful experience. It was dark and depressing the counsellor didn't appear to be really listening to us and seemed to take sides so we both ended up feeling worse than ever" "We stopped going and things went from bad to worse and looked like they were heading for divorce, but I was determined not to give up. I found Relationship Counselling Kent website on Google and made an appointment to see Alison a couple counselling Maidstone and it was clear that her approach was completely different other counsellors. I called her straight away and left a message and she called me back that same day. We only spoke for 10 minutes but during that time she gave me more comfort and confidence in the fact that we could sort our marriage problems out, if ,we were both committed to doing so. Alison made me feel better in 10 minutes than the previous counsellor had done over several hours" "Alison seemed to intuitively understand what the problems were and what could be done about it and she went out of her way to book me in quickly due to the fact we were at crisis point" "During our first session Alison challenged us both around the thinking and behaviour that had led to us to be at this point. and helped us understand where as individuals we had gone wrong and how we could change things to make things work. Alison was kind and understanding but she also continually challenged and pushed us forward. We still have further sessions with her but she has already worked miracles for us. Day by day our relationship is getting better and better when a short time ago I was convinced it was over. I cannot thank Alison enough for saving my marriage and prevent me from losing my family"
Sabine Hawkins - Canterbury "We procrastinated about going for relationship counselling for around 2 years. I made 3 appointments then cancelled them trying to pretend the problems were manageable and we didn't need help. Things finally came to a head and we had no choice; either go for help or split up. My husband didn't want to so it felt like I was dragging him along but plucking up the courage was the best thing we ever did and we wish we had done it five years ago. After only 2 appointments with Sabine at couple Counselling Canterbury it started to get better and then continued to grow each session after that. With our new communication skills and understanding of each other I feel like we are back in love again! I would tell anyone not to be scared or embarrassed and it is worth every penny"
Sj Mason - Gravesend "My wife point blank refused to seek help for our problems with marriage counselling because she saw this as a failure she didn't want to admit to. Neither of us wanted to separate but we wanted to feel happy again. But as much as I tried to persuade my wife to go to see Sj at marriage counselling Gravesend she wouldn't. When I called Sj to ask her advice it was actually her who suggested that perhaps my wife might feel more comfortable if we had a session at our home. Although my wife was still hesitant she felt much more comfortable with this idea and it's helped us greatly. We didn't even realised how stale things were and how mundane our lives had become. Sj inspired us with new vigour and understanding and we are both happier now and actually looking forward to our retirement together rather than dreading it"
Allie Markantonis - West Malling "It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"
Louise Jones - Bexley "Hi Louise, you asked us if we would mind writing down what we felt the benefits of relationship counselling are so you can share that to help other people. We both thought long and hard about it and we are not sure we can answer that in a generic format because we feel it only worked for us because of you (sorry if that's a bit creepy but it's true!)" "From the moment we met you, you put us at ease. You had a way of making us open up and tell you things we had never told each other let alone anyone else! You helped us understand each other and ourselves and you never made us feel judged or uncomfortable and as I said to you on the phone last week now we have finished our sessions we will miss you in a strange sort of way. Thanks again for everything"
Sian Jones - Ashford "We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again"
Sian Jones - Ashford "Highly recommend - I contacted Relationship Counselling Kent for an appoinment with Sian at Couples Counselling Ashford because I was concerned that my reaction to the small irritating things my partner was doing was getting out of hand. I was anxious, angry and upset on a regular basis. I tried to blame him for a while but I started to realise it was me and not him. I saw Sian for a few months, once a week, and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was. This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, I'm more in control of my emotions, and much happier in my relationship. Sian was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me when I started to feel better”
Debra Osborne - Rochester "As you know Debra I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship"
Beverley Mears - Whitstable "Having Beverley help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much"
Sabine Hawkins - Birchington "We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time"
Sian Jones - Ashford "Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!"
Sian Jones - Ashford "When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Sian made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Sian helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems"
Gaye Mitchell - Rochester "Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy Maidstone but Alison put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Alison help we are closer than ever"
Sian Jones - Ashford "I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at marriage counseling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel"
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.
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