Some couple report to using pornography as a way to enhance their sexual relationship. Others don’t want anything to do with it. And a third group have opposing views about the use of pornography.
What happens when one partner wants to view pornography independently of the relationship? What does this solo sexual gratification mean to the relationship? Should it be seen as a threat to a partner? Or is should a partner just accept that viewing porn is the norm? What happens if a partner becomes hooked on pornography?
We see lots of couples experiencing problems because either one has become dependent on internet sex or have porn addiction. Far too many couples don’t know how to deal with pornography in their relationship.
Are you Hooked on Pornography?
Do you find you are being secretive about your online activity? Or perhaps you are spending increasing amounts of time online alone? Maybe you have compulsive thoughts about using the internet for sexual purposes and are finding it difficlut to break? Any of these can begin to cause problems in your ‘real-life’ relatiionships.
Perhaps you are feeling more aroused by online activity than you do with your partner or you feel guilt about the amount of time you spend on the internet and get angry if challenged. Perhaps you argue that “internet sex isn’t real” so your partner shouldn’t get upset. If you recognise any of these signs in yourself, or in your partner, then the internet or porn may be affecting your relationship.
This topic can cause great stress in relationships. Because, even though technology is offering access that is affordable and provides anonymity, it doesn’t reduce the negative impact it can have on a partner. People often report that discovering thier partner is regulary using pornography feel as much a betrayal as a real life affair.
How Relationship Counselling Can Help
Our couple counsellors will you both talk through how you are feeling. We will help the person, who has come dependent on porn, to understand what they are getting from it and the impact it is having on their partner and thier relationship. This understanding goes a long way in helping you both find a way to move forward. If you would like some help to deal with the impact of porn in your relationship contact us today Book Now
Problems we can help you with
Dealing with the Death of a Partner
Jealousy and Suspicion
Pre-Marital/Pre-Living Together Counselling
The Impact of Pornography
Relationship Break Up’s or Divorce
Infidelity or Affairs
Why use us?
Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.
BSC (hons) Psychology
(accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of kent.
We have multiple marriage counselling practices Kent conveniently located to make our relationship counselling services accessible throughout the county.
"My wife and I decided to seek marriage counselling Bexley with Louise after having experienced a few communication challenges. We have been married just under 2 years and really wanted to nip these issues in the bud.
The counselling was a real revelation. The whole experience was enlightening and we both found it to be very useful. Louise had a really experienced and specialised way in helping us to approach and deal with our challenges well. It certainly wasn't about blame or who was right or wrong, but it helped us understand how the other was feeling and how they processed thoughts.
We had just 4 or 5 sessions and are now looking forward to a long, happy and fulfilled marriage with much-improved communication skills. Thank you Louise! "
"We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you!
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))"
Rosalyn and Patrick
"My wife point blank refused to seek help for our problems with marriage counselling because she saw this as a failure she didn't want to admit to. Neither of us wanted to separate but we wanted to feel happy again. But as much as I tried to persuade my wife to go to see Debbie at marriage counselling Bromley she wouldn't. When I called Debbie to ask her advice it was actually her who suggested that perhaps my wife might feel more comfortable if we had a session at our home. Although my wife was still hesitant she felt much more comfortable with this idea and it's helped us greatly. We didn't even realised how stale things were and how mundane our lives had become. Debbie inspired us with new vigour and understanding and we are both happier now and actually looking forward to our retirement together rather than dreading it"
Mr and Mrs Cobhurn – Bromley
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"
Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
"Hi Louise, you asked us if we would mind writing down what we felt the benefits of relationship counselling are so you can share that to help other people. We both thought long and hard about it and we are not sure we can answer that in a generic format because we feel it only worked for us because of you (sorry if that's a bit creepy but it's true!).
From the moment we met you, you put us at ease. You had a way of making us open up and tell you things we had never told each other let alone anyone else! You helped us understand each other and ourselves and you never made us feel judged or uncomfortable and as I said to you on the phone last week now we have finished our sessions we will miss you in a strange sort of way. Thanks again for everything"
Elsie & Bernadette – Bexley Kent
Highly recommend - I contacted Relationship Counselling Kent for an appoinment with Sian at Couples Counselling Ashford because I was concerned that my reaction to the small irritating things my partner was doing was getting out of hand. I was anxious, angry and upset on a regular basis. I tried to blame him for a while but I started to realise it was me and not him. I saw Sian for a few months, once a week, and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was. This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, I'm more in control of my emotions, and much happier in my relationship. Sian was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me when I started to feel better”
Mrs T Albany
Having Sabine help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much.
Byron & Claire – Birchington
We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Tara made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time.
Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!
Mr & Mrs Donahue
When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Sian made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Sian helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems
Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy Maidstone but Alison put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Alison help we are closer than ever.
Hayley and John
I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at marriage counseling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Paul & Sue
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.