Sometimes Relationship Counselling involves dealing with the death of a loved one. Being bereaved can be one of the most stressful and difficult experiences in life.
Grief is what we feel when somebody we are close to dies. Everyone experiences grief differently and there is no ‘normal’ or ‘right’ way to grieve.
It’s very common to seek help after losing someone close to you. It can be hard to deal with the powerful feelings that come after being bereaved.
Feelings when someone dies
- Shock – It may take you a long time to grasp what has happened. The shock can make you numb, and some people at first carry on as if nothing has happened. It is hard to believe that someone important is not coming back.
- Overwhelming sadness – feelings of pain and distress following bereavement can be overwhelming and very frightening.
- Anger or a sense of injustice – Sometimes bereaved people can feel angry. This is a completely natural emotion, typical of the grieving process. Death can seem cruel and unfair, especially when you feel someone has died before their time or when you had plans for the future together. We may also feel angry towards the person who has died, or angry at ourselves for things we did or didn’t do or say to the person before their death.
- Guilt – Guilt is another common reaction. People who have been bereaved of someone close often say they feel directly or indirectly to blame for the person’s death. You may also feel guilt if you had a difficult or confusing relationship with the person who has died, or if you feel you didn’t do enough to help them when they were alive.
- Fear for the future
- Sometimes some relief (perhaps after illness or relationship difficulties)
Grief is a natural process, and most people will cope with help and support from family and friends. For those who need additional professional support contact Relationship Counselling Kent Request an appointment
‘Cruse Bereavment Care’ offers free confidential support for adults and children – Helpline: 0808 808 1677 or click Cruse