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Karen Williams

Rainham Practice

Couple Therapy Rainham

 

Hello, my name is Karen Williams and I am a fully qualified Integrative Therapist based at Relationship Counselling Rainham practice. I’m qualified to diploma level in both Integrative/Person Centred Therapy and Transactional Analysis. I am also a member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy)

Person Centred Therapy works on the premise that an individual knows themselves better than anyone else. Therefore, focusing on this knowledge to enable an individual to understand any past or current issues in order to grow emotionally. This is invaluable in understanding how individual roles impact a relationship.

Transactional Analysis explores how we communicate and understand each other based on numerous factors. My study of Integrative Counselling enables me to draw upon a variety of different therapeutic approaches to find one best suited to your unique situation

I’m not only an experienced couple therapist. I also work with a wide range of issues such as anxiety, depression, trauma, personality disorder, and bipolar disorder.

As a couples counsellor  I work with heterosexual, trans or same sex relationships. Along with different cultures, religious beliefs and much more.

My Approach to Couple Therapy

I create a warm, safe environment in order for you to feel comfortable enough to open up about what is going on for you in your relationship. I’m not there to take side or pass judgement. Instead I will be there to listen to your combined experiences of the issues presented.

At the first session, we will discuss what your aims are for therapy, that is if you know of course. If not, I will help you both try and find some clarity as to what success looks like for you both and you can decide how the sessions develop with my input. We will work together on the partner dynamics whilst allowing both of you to be heard, listened to, and validated.

I will work with you both to gain a greater understanding of yourselves and the way you communicate. This means, we will look at what you say, what you mean and how you expect it to be received by your partner.  Together, we will explore how it might be interpreted in a different manner from which it was intended.

Miscommunication often lies in differences in individual life experiences, which can lead to different meanings being drawn from the same comment or behaviour. Therefore, the exploration of this leads to a greater understanding and hopefully the reduction of any hurt, anger and/or resentment that might have been building up.

It is a privilege to be part of people’s life stories and relationships. I gain great satisfaction in helping couples solve the issues within their relationships so they can move forward more positively in whichever way they chose.

Confidentiality is always respected.

Ethical Standards

I am a member of the BACP and the NSCP, which means I abide by the ethical guidelines and professional standards of both organisations. Part of my professional standards is to have ongoing supervision and continual professional development. This to ensure I provide the best possible service for my clients.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Karen for Couple Therapy Rainham. Please click  – Book Now

 

Claire Draper

Erith Practice

Couple Therapy Erith

 

Hello, my name is Claire Draper and I am an experienced relationship counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Erith practice. I’m a qualified Counsellor and Psychotherapist and a member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling Psychotherapists). I am qualified to CPCAB Diploma level 4 in a ‘Therapeutic Counselling’. I have over 9 years’ experience as a couple’s therapist and have built a solid foundation in a variety of therapeutic techniques

The first step into couple therapy

For some people starting relationship counselling can feel quite daunting. This is often because couples don’t know what to expect or are maybe unsure about what they would like to achieve out of the relationship therapy. However, please rest assured, I pride myself on creating a safe, warm and calm environment to help you feel completely at ease.

Our first meeting is about getting to know each other and building a rapport. I will take time to understanding your unique needs, expectations and goal of the counselling. Together, we will establish a relationship based on openness, trust and respect. There’s no rush, we will work at a pace that is comfortable for you both.

My approach to relationship counselling

I will actively listen to your thoughts and feelings without judgment.  I will help you emotionally recenter the relationship and unpick the details to help you find a way forward.  My confidential space which will allow you both the opportunity to explore the issues within your relationship, from your individual perspectives. You will have the time to speak and listen and to try and understand each other’s point of view and feelings. This will assist in healing any underlying resentment which might be bubbling under the surface and stopping you moving forward. Together, we will discuss your goal for the relationship therapy and help you gain a greater understanding of yourself and each other.

My aim is to help you both identify and communicate your needs and expectations more clearly.  I will help provide the right tools to help you both feel validated, understood and happier.

Ethical Standards:

As member of BACP, I uphold their ethical standards in my practice. I prioritise the well-being of my clients and engage in regular clinical supervision while also maintaining professional indemnity insurance. Your trust and welfare are of utmost importance to me, and I am committed to providing ethical and responible therapy services.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Claire for couple therapy Erith. Click here to book an appointment. Book Now

 

Andrew Allan

Sevenoaks Practice

Couple Therapy Sevenoaks

 

Hello, my name is Andrew and I am based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Sevenoaks practice. I hold an advanced diploma in couples counselling, which means  I am better able to support you in this specialised area of work. I am also a registered member of NCS (National Counselling Society).

Any couple is welcome to my practice, regardless of sexual orientation, ethnicity, or age. I also welcome individuals with relationship concerns or challenges.

When We First Meet

I appreciate that coming to therapy may feel daunting, particularly if it is the first time for you. My priority is to ensure you feel comfortable and at ease. I will ensure that both of you have the time and space to be heard and explain why you have come to therapy and what you would like to achieve from the process.

You may find it hard to put your finger on exactly what is wrong or perhaps feel overwhelmed by the number of things you want to get off your chest. That is fine and I will work with you to help identify the key issues and discover patterns. Conversely, you may worry that your problems seem relatively trivial. I believe that all couples can benefit from therapy and I will help support you whether your issues feel big or small.

My Approach to Couple Therapy

I do not follow an ‘off the shelf’ model because I believe that each couple is unique. Therefore,  I will tailor my approach to cover your wants and needs.

Usually, we will discuss each partner’s previous history, particularly childhood, as the way we interact with each other is influenced by our past. I will also provide you with some tools and techniques to help improve your relationship in the here and now.

Additionally, we will look to the future. I will help build your development and growth both as a couple and as individuals. You may ultimately decide that it is better to end your relationship. If that is the case, I will support you through that process to help ensure that it is constructive and as amicable as possible.

Common Problems  I Work With

The relationship issues that I can help you with include, but are not restricted to : – poor communication; infidelity and loss of trust. Intimacy problems and lack of desire. Relationship conflict; differences in values and/or life choices.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the NCS ethical framework alongside undertaking regular professional development. I also have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me for couple therapy Sevenoaks. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Book now with Andrew

 

Amanda Drury

Maidstone Practice

Couple Therapy Maidstone

 

Hello, my name is Amanda Drury and I’m a relationship therapist with over 13 years’ experience, based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Maidstone practice.

I hold a master’s degree in Social Psychology, a Bachelor’s degree in Counselling & Psychotherapy and I’m certified to level 5 in counselling. I am also accredited with the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) and the Gottman Institute.

When We First Meet

I pride myself on creating a safe, warm and calm environment to help you feel completely at ease. Approaching couples counselling might feel nerve-wracking because you may not know what to expect. Or perhaps you are unsure what you would like to achieve out of the  therapy. However, please rest assured, after 13 years’ experience of working with couples, I know how to quickly lessen your concerns, by providing a professional, informed and non -biased approach to your unique situation.

My Approach to Couple Therapy

I undertook comprehensive couples counselling training from ‘The Gottman Institute,’ a renowned global authority on couple therapy education.

The Gottman approach helps couples understand their needs as individuals as well as a whole unit and identify areas for improved connection and communication. Many of us fail to see how our past has affected who we are today and how we behave in relationships, this approach helps identify areas of ourselves that may be triggered within the relationship and result in the breakdown of peace, happiness and unity.

Together, we will talk through the issues and collectively share resolutions without the use of blame or control.  The ultimate goal is to foster a safe and trusting partnership founded on mutual respect and effective communication.

Common Problems Relationship Problems

Every relationship issue is completely unique to the couple, and everything is relative to your individual and collective needs.

No matter what is causing issues in your relationship right now, be it: trust, communication, infidelity or desire, we can work through them together.

Ethical Standards

I hold accreditation from the BACP and adhere to their ethical standards in my practice. Additionally, I engage in bi-weekly clinical supervision and maintain professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Amanda for couple therapy Maidstone. Contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Book Now

Denese MacDonald

Online Practice

Couple Therapy Online

 

Hello, my name is Denese MacDonald and I am a certified Relationship Counsellor of ’Imago Therapy, with over 20 years’ experience. I am BACP registered, which means I am qualified to work with both individuals and couples. Although relationship counselling is my main area of expertise.

Imago Therapy is a process designed to assist couples in overcoming a distanced hurting relationship in order to find love again. Whilst I am a practitioner of Imago Therapy I am essentially an ‘integrative therapist’. That’s’ because I don’t believe in a ‘one size fits all’ approach, So I use different therapeutic models, depending on each couples’ individual needs.

How couple therapy online can help

Perhaps you are tired of recycling the same conflicts which result in you feeling misunderstood, hurt or angry? Or maybe you feel so unhappy in your relationship that you are wondering if you should stay or leave?

Often, when couples are experiencing a lot of pain and frustration in their relationship, they feel disconnected and defensive. I shall assist you in creating a positive change in the way you communicate. So instead of being defensive and acting out your hurt with destructive behaviours. I will help you both calmly express your pain or dissatisfactions and explore them in more detail. We will discuss what you would like to change and tailor the counselling to meet your goals.

Undertaking  couple therapy online, in a safe non-judgemental space will allow listening and understanding instead of escalation and conflict. Relationship counselling can help expand awareness and develop the skills needed to repair and grow your relationship to its full potential.

If change is not possible and recovery is not your goal. Then online couple counselling can support you to talk this out, with kindness and mutual respect; so, you can move forward more positively in separate lives.

Marriage counselling is a positive action to navigate your way through your relationship difficulties. Being accurately’heard’ by our partner is the start of healing and growth.

Ethical Practice

Being a BACP member means that my practice is informed by their code of ethics. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Denese for couple therapy online. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

 

Emma Palmer

West Malling Practice

Couple Therapy West Malling

 

Hello! I’m Emma Palmer, a fully qualified, highly experienced ‘Relate’ trained couple counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s West Malling practice. I have a Graduate Certificate in ‘Couple Counselling’ and have over 20 years of experience . I specialise in helping couples and individuals find resolution to conflicts, embrace positive change and restore peace within their relationships.

Using an ‘Integrative Approach’ that acknowledges and accepts relationship difficulties. I support couples in understanding and addressing long-standing conflicts that may have been concealed, but are negatively impacting their present lives. Unresolved discord can unintentionally create emotional strain and stress within intimate relationships and family dynamics.

Deeply rooted and internally held emotions, combined with a multitude of external tensions associated with every-day living. Can result in regular clashes and intolerance within our most valued relationships.

How I can help your relationship

I offer sessions designed to provide context and guidance, empowering couples to work towards their chosen goal. As a warm and inclusive professional, I will create a safe, non-judgmental and confidential space where both partners can express themselves and feel truly heard. I understand that it might feel quite daunting discussing your relationship difficulties with a stranger. However, I will ensure you are comfortable so you feel more at ease opening up.

Our therapy sessions will begin by gaining a shared understanding of your concerns and goals. Together, we’ll explore ways to achieve clarity so you are able to move forward with confidence, in whichever way you choose.

Initial sessions may bring about some challenges, as each individual may have different desires and strongly held views on solutions, potentially leading to more conflict. This is a natural reaction, due to old wounds potentially being opened up.  However, as progress is made, couples discover the power of active listening and conflict resolution. This paves the way for positive change and a more harmonious relationship.

I recognise that individuals within relationships are influenced by their past experiences and upbringing. This can have a significant impact on the current relationship dynamics. By understanding any underlying pressures and nurturing a shared commitment to lasting change, we’ll work together to explore the transformations and resolutions you seek.

Ethical Standards

I undertake regular professional development in all frameworks of the counselling disciplines provided, together with regular clinical supervision sessions. I also hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Emma for couple therapy West Malling. Contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent Today. Book Now

Michael Sewell

Swanley Practice

Couple Therapy Swanley

 

Thank you for being here. My name is Michael Sewell and I am a fully accredited couple counsellor, with over 8 years’ experience specialising in relationship therapy. I hold a Master’s Degree in Relationship Therapy and I’m fully accredited with BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).

I understand that this might be a challenging time for you. Therefore, my aim is to support you in achieving your couple therapy goals throughout this counselling process. RelationshipcCounselling can evoke a wide range of emotions as we explore different themes and aspects of your life. It’s important to remember that many individuals have experienced similar emotions, and it’s completely natural to feel and express them during our sessions.

During our time together, this space will provide you with an opportunity to gain insight, understand and learn. Along with having the time to reflect on your own experiences. Both of you will have the chance to express your concerns and discuss the issues that are important to you.

Relationships often involve multiple factors that can impact them. Together, we will explore each of these components, examining how they manifest in your daily life and the roles they play.

I’m here to provide a supportive and non-judgmental environment as we navigate this relationship therapy journey together.

How couple therapy can help

  • You will gain a deeper understanding of your partner through effective communication techniques.
  • I will help you overcome relationship barriers by identifying and addressing personal triggers that hinder communication and intimacy.
  • We will establish healthy boundaries for a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.
  • I will support you in exploring the impact of attachment styles on your relationship dynamics.
  • To discover your love language, to better help you and your partner identify how you both like to receive love from each other.
  • You will experience a safe and non-judgmental environment where you can freely discuss your relationship concerns in complete confidentiality.

Background/experience

I have over 8 years of counselling experience and have successfully completed a Master’s degree in a course founded by ‘Relate’. Following my education, I continued working with Relate for several years. Throughout my career, I have worked with diverse couples spanning various ages, backgrounds, cultures and religious beliefs.

Additionally, I have provided counselling services to individual adults, young individuals (aged 10-25) and families. This was in both the charity sector and private practice. I also have experience in coaching clients to help them achieve their personal goals.

Qualifications

  • Master’s Degree in Relationship Therapy
  • Fully Accredited with BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy)
  • Fully Accredited with NCPS (National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society) previously NCS (National Counselling Society)
  • Life Coaching Essential CPD

Ethical Standards

I hold accreditation from the BACP and adhere to their ethical standards in my practice. Additionally, I engage in clinical supervision and maintain professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Michael for couple therapy Swanley. Please contact him via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Book Now

 

Natalie Edwards-Moss

Ashford Practice

Couple Counselling Ashford

 

Hello, my name is Natalie and I am a fully qualified therapist based at Relationship Counselling Ken’ts Ashford practice. I have a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling and Level 6 qualification in Working with Children and Young People.  I’m also a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and abide by their Ethical Framework.

I have a number of years of valuable experience working in diverse settings including the NHS and various educational establishments. My work with both individuals and couples spans across heterosexual, trans or same sex relationships. Along with different cultures, religious beliefs and/or disabilities.

I firmly subscribe to the belief that, in order to be psychologically healthy – to be fully human – is to be in relationship with others. In my experience, psychological problems can arise from relationship failure i.e. the cumulative experience of relational needs not being met. 

Perhaps it is the first time you have sought couple therapy and you are wondering what to expect. Or maybe you have had couple counselling before. Whatever your situation, I do appreciate that it can take great courage to reach out for help with your relationship. However, please rest assured, that I strive to be an approachable, warm and accepting couple counsellor. I provide a safe, confidential and non-judgemental place to help you make sense of what is going on and help you work things out, in whichever way you choose.

Our first couple therapy session

One of my first questions will be ‘what do you hope to achieve out of the couple therapy, both individually and as a couple?’ Perhaps, you would like help to make your relationship work better? Or maybe some help in separating more amicably? Perhaps you want different things, or one or both of you, are unsure as to which direction you would like the relationship to take. It doesn’t matter, I will tailor the sessions for your unique situation and help you find clarity if you are unsure.

You will be welcomed into my comfortable, calm therapy space, where you will both feel instantly at ease. Most of us experience relationship difficulties at some point in our lives because life can be challenging.  Therefore together, we will work through what is going on, from your individual perspectives. By participating in the relationship therapy process builds the skills and strength to help you deal with problems more effectively and enables positive growth and development for both partners.

My approach to couple’s therapy

I will encourage honesty, with yourselves, each other and with me in order to move you forward. However, I will also ensure you are both tolerant and respectful of each other’s thoughts and feelings. So, I will facilitate an environment where you can both properly listen. Hopefully then, you will understand and validate each other’s feelings. I will gently encouragi you to reflect on what lies behind your own behaviour, This will enable you both to make the necessary changes so you can move forward, in whichever way you choose

My aim is to ensure both partners achieve a clear sense of self as a source of happiness, satisfaction and safety.

Ethical Standards

As a member of the BACP I am bound by their Ethical Framework to protect a client’s confidentiality. As a practising counsellor I have regular supervision and undertake CPD (continuing professional development.)  I also have a current enhanced DBS certificate and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment with Natalie at Couples Counselling Ashford. Click  Book Now

Jacquie Young

Ramsgate Practice

Relationship Counselling Ramsgate

 

Hello, my name is Jacquie Young and I am a fully qualified ‘Relate’ trained couple therapist based at Relationship Counselling Ramsgate practice. I have over 15 years experience in relationship counselling and hold an Advanced Diploma in Couple Counselling.

I have considerable experience working with same gender relationships, mixed cultures, blended families and separated couples. Along with being qualified to work with children and young people.

My Background

My careeer has been varied, although always centred around supporting people, in a wide a range environments. I worked as a lecturer in a large multi-cultural college in East London for around 14 years. Prior to that I worked in local government focusing on issues such as homelessness, housing policy and improving customer satisfaction.

I also have vast experience working in the voluntary sector for a wide range of independent and charities. Supporting people from diverse backgrounds and cultures. This includes mental health support, domestic violence and reparative justice. I’m also experienced in working with people with autism and and their familie supporting them through challenging times.

Whist at Relate I also worked in conjunction with CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.). Supporting separating and divorcing parents and using my expertise as a qualified child counsellor to focus on the children’s needs. This aided the reaching of agreements to help them make shared plans to move forward.

How relationship counselling can help

Whatever your reasons for seeking  relationship counselling, I recognise that it can take courage. Asking someboy else for help can feel difficult. Therefore, I am still humbled when people take the decision to do so. However, this is the first step in working through any negative emotions and making the required changes to break a cycle of potentially unhelpful behaviours that might not be serving you well.

So, if you or your relationship is going through a difficult time or perhaps has reached crisis point,  it would be helpful for us to talk. Perhaps there is an ongoing situation where the the same arguments keep repeating again and again. Or maybe you feel like you have reached a point where you just can’t live like this anymore.

Over the years so many people have told me that they wish they had made the decision to come to counselling earlier. They often express frustration that they thought they could sort it themselves and  ‘just bumbled along’ and didn’t take the time to discover whether it was possible to make positive change. . People often tell me that they are amazed at the impact of being listened to and just having another person looking in at their relationship and offering a different perspective on it.

How I can help

I firmly believe, whatever your reason for attending relationship counselling. By having an honest look at your relationship will only be of benefit. Together, we will explore how you communciate and gain an understanding of  your individual needs and expectations are in a  warm, supportive, non-judgemental environment.

People tell me that I make them feel at ease very quickly, even when one partner is reluctant to attend. Feedback has been that they found it easy to open up and be honest about what’s going on for them. I  won’t just  sit back waiting for you to talk. I will actively participate, it is important that we all worki together to discover what’s going on. This might mean unpicking repetitive arguments to identify where behavior patterns come, This is so we are able to understand the changes required which will be more helpful for you and your relationship.

I use a variety of different theoretical approaches and will quickly find out what will be most helpful for your unique situation.  If you decide, for whatever reason, that I am not the right therapist for you, I  will be more than happy to help you explore alternatives.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I undertake regular professional development alongside  regular clinical supervision and peer supervision groups. My professional indemnity insurance is up to date.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Jacquie for relationship counselling Ramsgate. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today Request an appointment

Sian Jones

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couple Therapy

 

My name is Sian Jones and I’m  a fully qualified Relationship Counsellor and CBT therapist offering Couple Therapy Online via Zoom.

I am the founder of ‘Relationship Counselling Kent‘ and opened our first practice in Ashford  10 years  ago, before expanding across Kent and opening a further 18 practices. I have a proven track record in successfully helping thousands of couples achieve their chosen goal through couple therapy.

My approach to couple therapy

When relationship’s aren’t working as well as we would like them to, emotions become heightened and it can be difficult to see the wood from the trees. Let alone be able to identify the part you have both played in the relationship running in to difficulties.

My approach to online couple therapy is common sense, step by step, non-judgemental. I will encourage you to work through your problems together. Through me asking you relevant questions, you will both be given the opportunity to open up and explain what isn’t working for you and why.  In turn, this will allow your partner the opportunity to really listen and try to understand your point of view.

It’s not necessarily about you agreeing or even liking each other’s perspective, it’s about understanding them. Nor is it about attributing blame. It’s about gaining a proper understanding of how the other person feels and why. Because when an ‘understanding’ from both parties is reached, it goes a long way in removing any hurt, resentment or anger that may have built up over the years. Therefore allowing you to move forward, in whichever way you choose.

The feedback I receive is that I have an exceptional ability to make couples feel quickly at ease . Experience shows, when people feel comfortable, they find it much easier to open-up, be honest and communicate more effectively.

Rest assured, I won’t sit there silently waiting for you to speak, I will take an active part in the conversation and the process of recovery and change. Read what couples say about me  Trust Pilot Reviews

My work is diverse and I have vast experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships. I provide a non-judgemental  safe, confidential environment where we can work through your relationship challenges together.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework alongside undertaking regular professional development. I also have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at for Online Couples Therapy. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today.Book an appointment to see Sian

Lynn Garbutt

Egerton Practice

Couple Counselling Egerton

 

Hello, my name is Lynn Garbutt and I am a fully qualified Cognitive Behavioural therapist and couple counsellor. I hold a PGDip in ‘Cognitive Behavioural Therapy’ (CBT/REBT) and have over five years’ experience in helping both couples and individuals make positive changes in their lives and relationships.

In my experience, it’s common for relationships to go through troubling periods and this can have an impact on the health and happiness of both parties, as well as other family members. When emotions are running high, it can be difficult to appreciate and understand our partners perspective. This it can lead to feelings of hurt, resentment, confusion and loneliness.

My approach to couple therapy

At the beginning of the first session, I will ask you both what you hope to achieve out of the therapy. Whether you would like help to make your relationship work better, or whether you would like help in separating more amicably. Perhaps you are not sure which direction you would like your relationship to take and would like to see how the therapy goes before you decide. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know, or if your answers are different, I will help you both work through things in order to find clarity.

The therapeutic relationship between us is of the upmost importance in order for the therapy to be successful in achieving the goal you have set yourselves/self. Therefore, I will strive to build a trusting and empathic relationship with you. I will also tailor my approach to suit your unique situation.

My approach to relationship therapy is down to earth and common-sense and will help you work through your issues step by step. I may draw upon the tools of CBT to gently challenge you both about the negative impact any unhelpful behaviours might be having on the relationship

 Moving you forward

The vast majority of issues caused in relationships because of poor communication. It is common for couples to claim listen to what the other is saying but they don’t actually ‘hear or understand’ what is being said. I will help you to try and appreciate each other’s point of view in a calm, supportive, non-judgemental space. It’s not about agreeing with each other necessarily, it’s about learning to understand and appreciate your partners point of view.

Together we will work on finding any negative patterns of behaviour (which includes the way you speak to each other) which are impacting your relationship. People are often unaware of how their reactions/behaviours might be having a detrimental effect on their partner. Couples often describe having the same arguments over and over again without understanding how their own actions are contributing to the problems.

I will take an active role during our sessions by helping you both reflect back each other’s perspective. It is also important that you both feel comfortable with me in order to get the best out of each session. The feedback I have received from couples has said that I am warm, perceptive and impartial, so hopefully you will feel relaxed enough to  share your story with me.

Ethical standards

I subscribe to and works within the UKCP Code of Ethics and the BACP Ethical Framework and undertakes regular professional development. Alongside  having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Lynn for couple counselling Egerton or online. Then please contact her via  Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

Sara O’Donnell

West Malling Practice

Relationship Counselling West Malling

 

My name is Sara O’Donnell and I’m a fully qualified ‘Psychotherapeutic Counsellor’ and I work with both couples and individuals. I am an accredited member of the ‘National Counselling Society’ (NCS). And a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists).

I subscribe to and work within the NCS code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. Alongside undertaking regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Couple counselling

In my experience, I find that couples have usually tried to resolve things on their own before seeking couple counselling. They are often stuck repeating patterns of the same arguments or discussions and are struggling to break the cycle. By the time they attend therapy they tend to feel upset/angry/hurt and overwhelmed by the viscous cycle they find themselves in.

Couple counselling will enable you to explore the issues you are struggling with so you both feel supported and understood.  I will help you understand your own individual needs as well as your needs as a couple. We will work together to identify and overcome the any repeating negative patterns that are causing unhappiness.

Couples counselling offers the opportunity to discuss issues impacting a relationship in a confidential and safe space.  Some common issues brought by couples to address in therapy are affairs and infidelity, communication, unmet emotional needs, parenting styles, sex, and just general conflict that hasn’t improved over time.

My approach to relationship therapy

At the beginning of the first session, I will ask you both what you hope to achieve out of the therapy. Whether you would like help to make your relationship work better, or whether you would like help in separating more amicably. Perhaps you are not sure which direction you would like your relationship to take and would like to see how the therapy goes before you decide. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know, or if your answers are different, I will help you both work through things in order to find clarity.

I follow an ‘integrative person-centred’ approach, which means I will tailor the couple therapy to suit your unique situation. I may use different aspects from different theories, including T.A (Transactional Analysis)  and RIGAAR. This focuses on what isn’t working in a person’s life, not what is wrong with a person. For example, identifying any essential needs not sufficiently well met. Or innate resources not well used and helping a client address this.

I help couples to understand why perhaps their depression or anxiety occurs or their conflict does not get resolved, and how to deal with this. I will help you develop the knowledge and skills and confidence to effectively manage your relationship.  When we know why things happen and the effects of what we do we are more able to understand ways of coping and change behaviours and unhelpful patterns of relating and negative thoughts and emotions.

Couples tell me that I empathetic, authentic and non-judgmental and will be there to support you whilst you explore your world. High value will be placed on each person’s potential whilst you go through your journey. Hearing the experience of each other’s stories is important part of the process. The encouraging and supporting of individual growth as part of the couple in turn supports the relationship. When everyone is, happy and we have balance there is a sense of inner peace and wellness that brings harmony to our lives.

The counselling journey

Couple Counselling is not a magic solution and it isn’t always easy. It requires commitment and engagement from both parties. However, if you are both willing to listen and make the changes required in order to make the relationship work better. Then relationship therapy is always successful. Some couples find that the counselling experience helps them learn and understand the others perspective which strengthens the relationship. Whilst others conclude that separating and moving on independently is the best option for them. If this is the case for you I will support you in making this decision.

Ethical Standards

As a member of BACP I subscribe to and wok within their code of ethics. This includes undertaking continuous professional development and clinical Supervision. I also hold professional indemnity insurance in order to be able to practice.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Sara for Relationship  Counselling West Malling or online.  Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent Today. Link –Request an appointment

 

Maria Priddey

Sittingbourne Practice

Relationship Counselling Sittingbourne

 

My Name is Maria Priddey and I am a fully qualified and an experienced Couple Counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Sittingbourne practice.  I have a Level 4 Diploma in ‘Therapeutic Counselling’ and I am registered with the  BACP (British Association Counsellors & Psychotherapists) so therefore abide by their code of ethics.

My core approach to therapy is “Person Centred”. Which emphasis the belief that every person has the capacity  to fulfil his or her own potential. I also practice the ‘integrative’ approach, which  means I draw upon different theoretical approaches to allow me to tailor my work to suit each couple’s unique situation.

I understand it can be difficult to take the decision to reach out for help with your relationship. However, rest assured, I will be there to support you both, every step of the way.

At the beginning of our first session, I will ask you what you hope to achieve out of the therapy. Whether  you are hoping to make your relationship work better than it currently is or perhaps you would like me to help you separate more amicably. At this point, you might feel unsure or you  might have different answers and that is okay, we will work together to help you find clarity.

My approach to relationship therapy

I offer a safe, confidential space in order for you both to work through the problems in your relationship. Helping uou find answers to any questions you may have by encouraging you to  look  at your feelings. I will support you in finding a greater understanding of yourself as an individual as well as within your relationship. You will be empowered to explore change and  in turn find a way of moving forward, in whichever way you choose.

Each session will be guided by you. Which means you will have complete autonomy to decide what we discuss. You will be in control of when you are ready to talk about parts of you and your relationship. Although I will be there to guide the sessions and help you both ‘really’ lisen to each other’s points of view. You don’t necessarily have to like, or agree, with each other’s  perspectives. However, by understanding them, goes a  long way in removing any hurt, anger or resentment which may have built up over the years. It is your opportunity to talk and to be heard

I consider myself warm, down to earth and non-judgemental. Which will hopefully enable you both to feel comfortable enough to talk freely, openly and honestly with me. I will ensure you feel valued and comfortable during our sessions, helping you have a better understanding of each other. So you are able to  work together to achieve a better way of being.

Ethical Standards

I am a member of the BACP, working within their ethical framework.  I also attend monthly clinical supervision and further training in specific areas as required. My professional indemnity/public liability insurance is always up to date.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Maria for Relationship Counselling Sittingbourne. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today.  Click – Request an appointment

 

Dolores Fernandez

Gravesend Practice

Marriage Counselling Gravesend

 

Hello, my name is Dolores and I am a fully qualified couples counsellor based at Marriage Counselling Gravesend. I have a diploma in ‘’Integrative Counselling’ and I’m trained in ‘Couples Dynamics’. I’m accredited by the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and have over 10 years’ experience.

About marriage counselling

Perhaps you are finding it difficult to accept each other for who you are. Or maybe, when disagreements arise, you are communicating with negativity and contempt rather than with respect and understanding. Alternatively, you might feel the decision-making, power and influence in the relationship is one sided.

In my experience, it is so important that relationships are managed and nurtured ongoing. Because if not, they can fall by the wayside. Problems tend to occur in relationships when there is a lack of understanding through poor communication. This can then lead to feelings of hurt, disappointment and inadequacy, resulting in resentment building up if not discussed effectively. These unresolved recurring situations or patterns in relating to one another’s feelings can often lead to anger, depression and/or anxiety.

As a relationship counsellor my focus is always on your relationship. Firstly, by trying to understand the problem/s you are facing and also your desired outcome through having therapy. That is if you know of course. Sometimes couples are unsure as to what they want to achieve when they first start marriage counselling. Perhaps you need help to make your relationship work better than it currently is or perhaps you would like help to separate in an amicable way. Maybe you might want different things or you are unsure. That’s okay, we will work together to help you find clarity to enable you to move forward more positively.

My approach to marriage counselling

During our sessions I will ensure the dynamic between you is balanced, which means you will both have the opportunity to talk and to be heard. I will support your expression and your communication. My role is also to help you listen and try and understand your partners perspective, thoughts and feelings.

Relationships work better when both people feel safe and comfortable enough to share their feelings. Additionally, couples feel closer when they know they can trust and rely on each other. I will help you achieve this if that is what you want.

My approach to couple therapy is solution focused. This means, I will help you bring about change by constructing solutions rather than focusing on the problems. I will gently encourage you to look at yourselves as individuals and the role you play in the relationship. By having an un-biased third party in the room can help take some of the emotion out the situation, so you are able to talk, listen and see things more clearly.

Where necessary I will provide support in how to create healthy boundaries in your relationship. Help with problems with intimacy or sexual compatibility. Perhaps you are looking for help following infidelity, parenting or co-parenting. No problem is too big or too small

Ethical Standards

My work is diverse and I’m experience in working with mixed cultures, same gender relationships, families and friendships.

I subscribe to and work within the BACP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I have monthly supervision and regularly undertake professional development

If you would like to make an appointment to see Dolores for marriage counselling then please contact us today. Request an appointment

 

Tim Gilbert

Tunbridge Wells Practice

Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells

 

Hello there. My name is Tim Gilbert and I am based at Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells. I have been a couples, individual and family counsellor for over 8 years. I hold a Diploma in Relationship Counselling and a BSc (Hons) in Psychology. I’m also BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) registered.

Problems in relationships can be caused by a variety of different reasons. Therefore, in order for you to get the most out of the therapy, I will use an ‘integrative approach’. This will be from either a Systemic or Psychodynamic perspective. This means, I will explore what is happening ‘now’ in the couple relationship and develop an understanding of how our upbringing and past experiences define our relationships.

As individuals we are affected by our internal makeup and by external influences. For example, our upbringing, social experiences and how these affect our emotions, feelings and beliefs. Therefore, approaches to therapy are influenced by these two models in terms of what has happened in the past and what is going on in the present to yourself and as a couple.

My approach to relationship therapy

I understand that taking the decision to come to relationship therapy might feel quite daunting. So, with this in mind, my approach is both empathetic and supportive. I will help you quickly feel at ease, listened to and most importantly understood. During the relationship counselling process, we will explore the problems at hand in order to develop a holistic and comprehensive understanding of your unique situation.

Relationship counselling usually employs a process of change. Therefore, it’s important that you both feel valued and respected whilst working through what that change may look like in your scenario. I will encourage you to determine your desired outcome. Then, through the building of bridges, help you develop positive communication paths so you are able to move forward. This process will not only improve self- esteem, it will also allow respective voices to be heard.

Perhaps you are worried that there is a possibility of separation or maybe there are disputes within the family unit. My easy-going approach will enable you to be heard and empowered in order to reach a more positive resolution going forward.

My experience

During our work together at Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells I will help you gain a better understanding of each other’s perspectives. This will be achieved through a calm, non-accusatory, therapeutic process. A process where you will both have a voice and be able to work through your relationship issues together for a sustainable outcome.

I work diversely and have experience working with same gender relationships. mixed cultures, families and friendships.

Ethical standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP code of ethics and ethical framework. I undertake regular professional development to maintain a high level of knowledge and practice and regular supervision. My professional indemnity insurance is up to date.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Tim at Couple Counselling Tunbridge Wells. Please contact him via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment with Tim

 

 

Jackie Hare

Chatham Practice Practice

Couple Therapy Medway

 

Hello and welcome. My name is Jackie Hare and I am based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Chatham practice. I hold a CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in ‘Therapeutic Counselling’ and I’m member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy).

I am fully qualified ‘Person-Centered’ therapist which means I will encourage you both to bring your individual issues to the session. The relationship counselling will be led by you both and not directed by me as your therapist.

Couples frequently tell me that they have drifted apart which leaves them feeling disconnected and alone, rather than a pair. It is also common for couples to be concerned that the “spark” has gone between them. Or something has impacted their relationship, leading to a breakdown in communication, causing pain, frustration and tension. This negative cycle then affects the trust and understanding between them which results in a void developing. Usually, by the time couples choose to seek professional help for their relationship, resentment tends to be simmering beneath the surface on one or both sides.

Relationship counselling is often viewed as a last resort for some couples because their relationship is at breaking point. However, in general, couple therapy is a positive experience because it takes place in a neutral setting, where you can take a breath and have the opportunity to finally feel ‘heard’ and hopefully understood by your partner.

My approach to relationship therapy

At the beginning of the first session, I will ask you both what you hope achieve out of the therapy. Whether you would like help to make your relationship work better, or whether you would like help in separating more amicably. Perhaps, you are not sure which direction you would like your relationship to take and would like to see how the therapy will go before you decide. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know, or if your answers are different, I will help you both work through things in order to find some clarity.

I will play an active role in opening up the conversation between you. Bridging the gap and working with you both to gain a better understanding of each other’s point of view. Sometimes just having a moment to listen to each other without conflict can be therapeutic in itself. I am not there to judge or take sides, instead I will support you both as you share your thoughts and feelings. Taking the time to really listen and try and understand each other, without conflict, is therapeutic in itself.

As a person- centred counsellor I embrace diversity and will encourage couples of any age, gender or sexual orientation to explore their relationship in a calm, safe and confidential space.

Ethical Standards

As a member of BACP I subscribe to their code of ethics. This includes

undertaking continuous professional development and clinical Supervision. I also hold professional indemnity insurance in order to be able to practice.

If you would like to an appointment to see Jackie at Couple Therapy Medway. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Link –Request an appointment

Daniella Smith

Aylesford Practice

Couples Counsellor Aylesford

 

Hello, my name is Daniella and I am an experienced Couple Counsellor based at Relationship Counselling Kent’s Aylesford practice. I’m fully qualified and hold a level 5 Professional Diploman in ‘Psychotherapeutic Therapy’.  I am also accredited by the NCS (National Counselling Society) therefore bound by their professional and ethical standards.

I have been in private practice for a number of years, providing therapy for both couples and individuals. Alongside working as an NHS Counsellor and Wellbeing Coach.

About relationships

We all need help at certain times in our lives. However, admitting to needing help with our relationships is something people often find difficult and view as a ‘failure’. This is often because they believe that they ‘should’ be able to sort things out for themselves. However, asking for professional relationship help actually shows great strength, not weakness. In my experience, couples always report that they wish they had sought relationship help much sooner.

Human beings are complex and we all have different emotional needs. Having our needs met is important in order for us to feel safe and content within relationships. However, when our relationship runs in to difficulty it can have a great impact on our mental health and wellbeing.

Perhaps your relationship has experienced a shift and things aren’t working as well as they used to be. Or maybe communication between you has diminished or there are changes in your sex life. Sometimes couples are unsure as to when and why the problems in their relationship began but it may have gone on for a number of years.

Life experiences such as bereavement, infidelity, the loss of job or health problems can have a negative impact on our relationships, all of which can leave you feeling lonely, undesirable, insecure and lost. The relationship then can become a battle-ground of stored-up resentment and unkind words.

Maybe you feel your relationship would benefit from you both being able to talk openly, ideally without filtering your feelings about the other person. It can be incredibly empowering to be heard and accepted within our closest relationships.

My approach to couple counselling

I believe we would all benefit from knowing we have a “safe space” to speak to somebody who is unbiased, supportive and understanding. My aim is to ensure that my genuine down-to-earth approach will enable you both to feel comfortable enough to open about what is going on for you in your relationship.

I will not take sides or pass judgement or attribute ‘blame’ in anyway. Instead, I will ask you all the right questions in order to understand what is not working as well as you would like it to, from both your points of view. Whilst helping you both listen to and try and understand each other’s perspectives.

Your reason for seeking relationship counselling might be to “re-boot” your relationship, so you have a happier, more fulfilling future together. I will do everything to ensure you both feel safe and heard. The counselling space is an equal opportunity for you to share how you feel and why and hopefully able to see things from the other person’s perspective.

I will then help you learn new, more effective communication tools and strategies. These will be around increasing kindness and respect for each other by making only relatively small changes.

A positive relationship counselling experience can, amongst other things: –

Increase self-esteem
Improve intimacy between you
Improve your feelings of self-worth in the relationship
Help you both recognise and reduce negative and self-sabotaging behaviour
Leave you feeling more comfortable asking for your needs to be met within the relationship.

Alternatively. perhaps one or both parties feel a separation is inevitable and want help in doing so more amicably. As a neutral person I will support you in doing so whilst maintaining respect and compassion for each other.

As an accredited member of NCS I subscribe to their code of ethics. This includes undertaking continuous professional development and clinical supervision.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Daniella for couples counselling then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

Janine Knight

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couple Counselling

 

Hello, my name is Janine Knight and I am an experienced ‘Relate’ qualified counsellor  specialising in online couple counselling for couples and individuals.  I am registered with the BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) and experienced in working with a diverse range of relationship issues.

If you are in a relationship which does not feel right or you are struggling to reach compromises, resolve conflict or suppressing feelings of unhappiness, then relationship counselling can help.

My approach to online counselling is caring and empathetic. This means I will not judge you but rather enable you both to understand your relationship better and work through the issues that are troubling you.  I create a trusting, therapeutic relationship to enable you to gain new understanding and insights around what is not working in your life.

I was previously a registered Midwife working within the NHS and was drawn to the psychological aspects of care, talking to and understanding people’s experiences, often providing support following trauma.  My midwifery experience gave me many useful skills that I bring to my counselling role. I am a calm and positive person and I find it easy to relate to people.

Why choose me as your counsellor?

Relationship therapy is my specialist area and I am passionate about the job I do! I also understand how hard it can be to take that first step into couple counselling, because opening up to a stranger about the personal details in your life might feel a little daunting. Couples tell me that I quickly put them at ease which allows them to relax and engage in the therapy.

My communication style is friendly, relatable and down to earth and I have experience with every type of relationship, including different sexualities, ages, genders and cultural backgrounds.

Online Couple Counselling

I will provide you with a safe, confidential space where you can both share your thoughts and feelings about each other in a structured and meaningful way. At the start we will explore what you both hope to achieve from therapy. You may require help to understand each other more and make the relationship work better. Or perhaps have decided to separate and need help to do so more amicably. You may not know for sure what you want or you might be in very different places. That’s okay, I  will help you find clarity.

 How I work

Relationships require effort to remain healthy and couples don’t necessarily know how to do that work, particularly when problems arise.  Couple counselling helps you gain new emotional tools to navigate the next chapter in your lives more positively.

Together we will explore how individual patterns of behaviour might be negatively impacting your relationship. This is  because people are often unaware of how their reactions affect their partner. Couples often report having the same arguments over and over again without understanding their own role in this dynamic.

By identifying unhelpful behaviour ssuch as criticism, blame or shutting down, couples gain more insight into each other’s responses and where they come from. People may seek relationship counselling for many reasons but poor communication is usually the most common.

My Professional Qualifications

Level 5 Diploma in Relationship Counselling (CPCAB with Relate)

Level 4 Diploma in Relationship Counselling (CPCAB with Relate)

Foundation Certificate in Psychodynamic Counselling (The Counselling Centre, Tunbridge Wells)

Mediation Skills Certificates (voluntary work at Maidstone Mediation Centre)

Diploma of Higher Education in Midwifery Practice (Kings College University of London)

BSc (hons) Sociology

I work within the professional ethical boundaries of my registering body, the BACP. My membership number is 00927492.  I have regular supervision (group and individual) and I am committed to continuous professional development.  I am also fully insured with an enhanced DBS certificate.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Janine for online couple counselling. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Click  Booking Request

Beth West

Maidstone & Ashford Practice

Couple Counselling Maidstone & Ashford

 

Hello, my name is Beth and I am a fully qualified CBT therapist who offers a unique, tailor made approach to couple counselling called ‘Rational Emotive Counselling Therapy’ (RECT). Which is for couples struggling with emotional disturbance in their relationships

I hold an ‘Advanced Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)’ and ‘Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT)’ awarded by ‘The College of Cognitive Therapies London’. Both of which are accredited by the ‘National Counselling Society’ (NCS).

I am also a qualified Mediator, which means I am an unbiased third person who is called upon to help resolve any differences/disputes. I have mediated a range of disputes, including family, neighbourhood and employment disputes. This has given me a good insight into relationships and how they breakdown when one or both parties hold irrational demands on themselves or the other person.

I combine my experience as a mediator with my REBT training in order to provide ‘Rational Emotive Counselling Therapy (RECT) for couples.

My role in couple counselling

At the start of the session, I will ask you what you are hoping to achieve through couple counselling. Perhaps you want help in making your relationship work better than it currently is. Or maybe you would like help to be able to separate more amicably. Perhaps, at this point in time, you might be feeling a little sceptical as to whether the relationship can be any better, so you would like to see how the therapy goes before you decide.

It is not my mission to rescue or save a troubled relationship if that isn’t what you want. I will help you work towards your goal. If you are unsure as to which direction you want the relationship to take. I will help free you from any strong negative emotions so that you can make more informed decisions as to whether you want to continue the relationship.

If you decide you want to stay together, I will help you enhance your long-term happiness. This will be through helping you eliminate and replace relationship-defeating beliefs. We will then work on identifying and changing any dysfunctional/unhelpful behaviour patterns to ones that help achieve long-range happiness. I will teach you cognitive, emotive and behavioural skills so you are able to successfully resolve any problems in the future. Ensuring ongoing harmony and happiness once the relationship counselling sessions have come to an end.

My approach

Relationships require hard work in order to ensure both parties feel mutually supported, respected and secure. In today’s busy world, it can be all too easy to lose focus on connecting with, listening to and supporting your partner. I provide a warm and non-judgmental environment where you can talk openly about the problems from your individual perspective. We will work together to better understand the role you have both played in the relationship running into difficulties. I will then help you understand the changes and tools required so you can support one another going forward.

I will help you both to rebuild your confidence, understand the possibilities of relating to each other more effectively and feel more enabled to make empowered choices about your relationship.

Ethical Standards

I am an accredited member of the National Counselling Society (NCS) and as such subscribe to and work within the NCS code of ethics. I undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to see Beth for couples counselling  please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

 

Sabine Hawkins

Birchington Practice

Couple Counselling Birchington

 

I’m Sabine Hawkins and I’m an experienced BACP (British Association Counsellors Psychotherapists) registered therapist based at Couple Counselling Birchington.

I understand that it can take great courage to reach out for help with your relationship. However, rest assured, most of us experience relationship difficulties at some point because life can be challenging at times. I provide a safe, confidential environment where we can work through your relationship difficulties together.

A number of things can impact our relationships. Which can include a stressful work/life balance, negative behaviour patterns, poor communication or external influences.

I offer couple counselling for every type of relationship and any kind of problem.

My approach to couple counselling

I provide a warm, safe, confidential environment in which we can work together to explore your relationship difficulties and help you make sense of what is going on.

At the beginning of the session I will ask what you hope to achieve out of the relationship therapy. Whether you would like help to make your relationship work better than it currently is. Or perhaps you would like help to separate more amicably. Maybe you are unsure as to what you want at this point, that’s okay we will work together to help you find some clarity.

I consider myself warm, approachable and non-judgemental. My aim is to ensure you both feel important and comfortable. I will help you to listen to each other’s perspectives. This will enable you to gain a better understanding of what each of you are experiencing, how you feel and why.  We will then explore the changes that need to be made so you are able to move forward more positively, in whichever way you choose.

I won’t just sit there and nod, instead I will take an active role in helping you make the changes that you choose. Feedback from the couples I have seen is that I am warm, easy to talk to, perceptive, encouraging and intuitive.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

if you would like to make an appointment to see Sabine at Couple Birchington. Please contact us at Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

Kaye Barney

Online Counselling Practice

Marriage Counselling Online

 

Hello, my name is Kaye Barney and I’m a fully qualified ‘Relate’ and ‘Tavistock’ trained individual and couples’ therapist. I hold a Psychology degree and a foundation degree in Relationship Counselling.

Relationship Counselling is my second career. It builds upon many years of experience working in commercial organisations, understanding human motivations and behaviour. Over the years I’ve also gathered a wide variety of life skills and experiences. I now help couples and individuals succesfully resolve their relationship problems.

About you

Do you feel unhappy in your relationship? Perhaps your relationship is stuck in a rut or you’ve grown apart? Maybe you’ve lost the spark that brought you together or keep going around and around with the same old arguments. Alternatively, you might be struggling to communicate at all.

Resentment might be simmering under the surface or there are fireworks every time you share what’s on your mind. Perhaps one of you has had an affair, leaving the other feeling betrayed. Or one of you feels invaded because your partner is too clingy.

Maybe you’re unsure whether you want to stay or leave a relationship.  You might know what you want, but don’t know how to do it. Or think what you want is different to what your partner wants.

Perhaps you want counselling on your own, or couples counselling with your partner.  Whatever your reasons might be for seeking relationship counselling online, I can help you find a way forward.

About marriage counselling online

Asking for help signifies the realisation that whatever your situation is, it won’t get better without something changing.

Making the decision to start relationship therapy can feel like a huge step. Perhaps you’ve been thinking about it for a while, or you have maybe been putting it off, in the hope that things will improve. Maybe you’re reluctant to talk about deeply personal issues with a stranger. Or nervous about what you might discover about yourself or your partner. Perhaps you’ve tried counselling before and felt it didn’t work or you didn’t ‘click’ with the counsellor.

Whatever your fears, I’ll help you feel at ease with my warm, friendly, non-judgemental approach. I’ll give you time to talk about your problems in confidence and at your own pace. I’ll help you find ways of coping. And if you come with your partner, rest assured that I’ll give you both space to be heard.

I will help you:-

  • Explore what happens with repetitive thoughts.
  • Unpick the arguments that go round and round.
  • Work out where these patterns come from.
  • Voice your expectations, hopes and fears.
  • Understand how you communicate and try new ways of talking.
  • Identify what to change and learn how to accept or tolerate what you can’t.
  • Consider a way forward by brainstorming options.

Ethical Standards

I have a BACP Certificate of Proficiency, demonstrating that I have the relevant, up to date skills to be a practising counsellor. As a registered BACP member, I work within their Ethical Framework. I am fully insured, DBS certified, and take part in ongoing supervision and professional development.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Kaye for marriage counselling online. Request an appointment

Jo Walmsley

Sittingbourne Practice

Marriage Counselling Sittingbourne

 

My name is Jo and I’m a fully qualified counsellor based at Marriage Counselling Sittingbourne . I am actually in Teynham which is easily accessible from Faversham, the Isle of Sheppey and Maidstone. I’m accredited by the NCS (National Counselling Society).

I am a professionally trained ‘Integrative Counsellor’ which means I take combined approach to therapy. This means I bring together different elements of specific therapies. Integrative therapists take the view that there is no single approach that can treat everyone in all situations.

I have vast experience in couple counselling as well as being a clinical supervisor. I will provide support to rebuild, repair and re-bond you relationship. Or sometimes if required, I will help facilitate the end of a relationship as amicably as possible.

My background/experience

I’ve experienced a variety of issues during my time as a therapist, achieved through private practice, agency work along with five years working within the NHS IAPT (improved access to psychological therapies)

My extensive knowledge and understanding has highlighted the importance of effective communication within relationships. Alongside understanding the impact problems such as sexual desire or dysfunction, long term health conditions, domestic abuse, anxiety, depression or anger can have on relationships. I have seen and heard most things, so I’m not easily shocked or embarrassed, so there is nothing taboo..If you need to talk about it then I’m here to listen.

How I can help

At the core of any successful therapy is the relationship between counsellor and the individual. Therefore, I strive to build a trusting and empathic relationship with you.

At marriage counselling Sittingbourne I provide a safe, confidential space to talk through your issues together. Helping you to understand how you’re past events and experiences may be responsible for your current beliefs and behaviour.

We may not always be aware; but sometimes our beliefs become unhealthy or may even be incorrect, which can lead to unhealthy behaviours filtering into the relationship. We are all influenced by our early years and the people around us. Therefore, it can be helpful to understand our partner’s history as well as understanding our own.

By helping you to understand yourselves, alongside finding more healthy ways of communicating, you will be equipped with the tools to make the most of your future and find happiness once again in your relationship.

I will tailor my work to suit your individual situation. I am a trained life coach so may use these skills alongside the therapy to help you manage life, maximise your potential and achieve your goals.

About me

If you are considering sharing your thoughts and emotions with me, it feels right to share a little of myself with you.  I’m just a pretty “normal” kind of person with a sarcastic sense of humour and a few battle wounds of my own.

I also struggle with my own issues some days but I get through them with a smile and a few expletives! #counsellorwhoswears. I love to laugh and always try to find a positive in every situation. However, it hasn’t always been this way. I have also had difficult times in my life when I thought I would never laugh again but I came through them. My own experiences give me the passion to help you through your difficult times.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP and NCS code of ethics and ethical framework. Additionally, I undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

Marriage counselling Sittingbourne. Relationship counselling Faversham and couple counselling Faversham.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Jo at Marriage Counselling Sittingbourne then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Link – Request an appointment

Trish Mayne

Online Counselling Practice

Online Relationship Therapy

 

Hello, my name is Trish Mayne and I am a fully qualified ‘Relate’ trained couple counsellor, offering online relationship therapy for both couples and individuals.

For as long as I can remember I have had an interest in the way people communicate. Relationships are based around communication, whether that is with your partner, parents, children, colleagues and friends.

Our interaction with others can bring great joy and fulfilment. However, there are times when we all struggle with relationships. We change, others change and circumstances change. You and those around you can be left feeling confused and unhappy.

Maybe there is a relationship crisis in your life. It could be that your relationship is feeling unfulfilled. You may be unsure about the future together. You may want to prepare your relationship for a big life event you know is coming, such as becoming a parent or marriage.  It can be very difficult to find a place where you feel as if someone is really listening to you. This is where I, as a Relationship counsellor, can help.

My background

I began my career as a nurse within the NHS. This gave me the foundation to communicate with people of all ages when they were at their most vulnerable and needed support. I am also a qualified midwife and health visitor so I understand the physical and emotional changes that occurred when a couple were starting out as parents.

Personal expectations are challenged when a child comes into the family, and sometimes things are not as you were expecting them to be.  I have been privileged to gain the trust of many people I have worked with. Many feel better knowing they don’t have to be perfect.  It has been fulfilling to help people increase their self-belief and confidence.

I spent many years working with young parents, helping them to understand healthy relationships and have fulfilling attachments with their baby/ children.  I have used my knowledge of child development and psychology along the way.

My work with Relate over a number of years has been both face to face and online. I have worked with couples seeking help for relational problems such as: Wider family conflict; intimacy issues; infidelity or affairs; the loss of romance or excitement; mental and physical ill health affecting the relationship – to name but a few.

I also have counselling work experience with couples where one partner has recently been released from prison, successfully helping them to re-establish their relationship with their partner and children.

I strongly believe that listening is the key to understanding and I feel my varied work expertise brings a rounded understanding of people of all ages, all walks of life and in all sorts of situations.

Online relationship therapy

I will give you respect understanding, empathy and support. Whether you come as a couple or an individual. I will bring a warm, relaxed approach which will put you at ease and I aim to give you a feeling of being in control during our work together.

Sometimes we lose the skill of listening and understanding to what our partner is saying. I will give you space to explore your thoughts and feelings and think about how this affects your relationship.  You will need a space where there is equal time to think and speak.

My approach to your individual situation will be neutral and without judgement.  Along the way, I may challenge you if appropriate, or offer the odd suggestion. I won’t attempt to ‘fix ‘your relationship or tell you want you should or shouldn’t be thinking or feeling. Instead, I will sit with you while you are trying to make sense of your experience.

I hope that you will end your counselling with me feeling you have more control and understanding of your relationship.

Ethical standards

I subscribe and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and clinical supervision. I also have up to date professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Trish for online relationship therapy then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

Kathy Hoggart

Rye Practice

Couple Counselling Rye

 

My name is Kathy and I’m a fully qualified and experienced relationship counsellor at Relationship Counselling Kent.

My training and experience in couple counselling was achieved through ‘Relate’ where I worked for over twenty years.  I have worked with hundreds of individuals, heterosexual and same-sex couples helping them to achieve change.

In the past I worked as a family mediator, assisting couples come to terms with separation and the practical elements involved. Alongside being involved in mediation between parents and/or young adults experiencing a relationship breakdown.

I have attended many workshops and courses on a variety of subjects, such as Cultural Diversity, Mental Health and Attachment issues. I am committed to continuing my professional development.

My approach to couple therapy

Many couples have told me they find me empathic, non-judgemental and easy to work with.  The relationship problems brought to counselling are always varied but no problem is too big or too small. Some of the most common relationship concerns might include poor communication, arguments, loss, an affair or simply growing apart.

I work intuitively with a person-centred focus which means we will work at your pace and from your life perspective.  My aim is to build a rapport between us which will be about confidentiality, good listening, mutual respect and neutrality.  I will provide a comfortable and safe space to talk about the particular aspects you are struggling with.  Hopefully this will enable you to feel confident about sharing your story with me and working through your feelings.

I will support you whilst you try to understand what you need for yourself, and from each other, in order to bring about the desired change.  I will encourage you both to be open and honest. At times, I will reflect back what you tell me so you can begin to see things from the other’s perspective and listen to each other more effectively.  These are small, but important steps in helping break a cycle of behaviour which is having a negative impact on your relationship.

It is important that you both feel comfortable with me. At the end of the first session I will check out how you are feeling and what you hope to achieve from the counselling. We can review this throughout the process.

What to expect

Couple counselling is about ensuring that each person feels heard and taken seriously.  I won’t take sides or attribute blame.  I will respect your individual positions and time-manage the session. This will allow you both the opportunity to say what is important to you.

I use a variety of therapeutic approaches but often my work is solution-focused. Together, we can think about what will be most useful for you to achieve your goals.  It is also important to acknowledge how family history might influence patterns of behaviour within your current relationship. This can help you gain insights into how you relate to each other.

I appreciate that it might feel like a difficult journey to undertake, especially when feeling fragile. My job is to help you feel safe while you explore what is happening and why, so that you can look at your options and decide how to move forward.

Ethical standards

I work within the code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework and undertake regular professional development and clinical supervision. I also have up to date professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Kathy for couple counselling either online or in Rye then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

 

 

Elaine Brown

Online Practice

Online Relationship Counselling

 

Hello, my name is Elaine Brown and I am a fully qualified ‘Relate’ trained relationship therapist.  I have had over six years’ experience both privately and with Relate supporting couples, individuals and young people.

I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) and I am also an accredited member of the NCS (National Counselling Society).

My experience

Over a number of years, I have worked both in the private and public sector, as well as for voluntary and charity organisations.  This involved supporting a wide range of people, in a variety of different working environments, both in the UK and overseas. My work as a relationship therapist has led me to working with people from all walks of life and a wide range of diverse cultures and backgrounds. This includes same gender relationships, blended families, couples living apart, with or without children.

How I can help

Relationship counselling is often reflective and can be a difficult journey. Therefore, making the decision to come along for counselling can feel a brave one to make.  However, it is an important investment for you both individually and as a couple. I consider myself to be honest and considerate with a down to earth, friendly approach. I will use my experience, integrity and understanding to ensure you both feel heard, listened to and supported throughout the counselling journey.

Couples often tell me that the problems in their relationship go back months, if not years. And I’m aware how difficult this can be. Therefore, during our work together at Relationship Counselling Deal. I will help you navigate your way through your problems with empathy, kindness and respect.

I will endeavour to ensure you feel you have chosen the right relationship therapist for you. During my work, I use a variety of different theoretical approaches and therapeutic tools, tailoring to them to suit your particular needs. I will not judge you, but instead help you both to really understand each other’s perspectives. This will enable you to move forward in the way you choose.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the NCS code of practice and BACP ethical framework.

I also undertake regular professional development, have regular clinical supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to book an appointment to see Elaine for Online Relationship Counselling. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request an appointment

Lorna Ashley

Swanley Practice

Relationship Counselling Swanley

 

My name is Lorna Ashley and I’m a qualified ‘Integrative Counsellor’ based at Relationship Counselling Swanley.  ‘Integrative’ means I’m flexible in the way I work and use the best possible approach to achieve the outcome you choose.

Whether you decide that you want to stay together or want help in separating my aim is to promote a positive transition for change, fulfilment and self-awareness.

I have extensive experience in both relationship and individual counselling. I’m also a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy).

My experience

I have been practicing for a number of years both in private practice and for two charitable organisations, where my work focusses on bereavement and suicide. I am also clinical lead supervisor which means I advise other counsellors with elements of their work.

About relationships

Life happens and it’s not always kind. The things we thought we had a handle on and believed we could cope with, can suddenly seem uncertain, confusing and overwhelming. We might experience thoughts and feelings which leave us feeling unable to make sense of it all. Your inner world can be very different to your external world. How you feel you have to be seen or heard can lead to conflicting emotions within your relationship.

Very few relationships are conflict-free. When one of our most important relationship begins to falter, our health and happiness often suffers. Whilst many couples might try and work through their problems alone, it’s difficult when emotions are running high. Therefore, it can be incredibly useful to seek outside professional help.

How I can help

Together we will look at what lies behind the current difficulties from both your perspectives by paying attention both to the past and the present. In order to bring about change you desire.

My role as a relationship therapist  is to facilitate change and resolution by helping you both communicate more effectively and reach your own conclusions under the guidance of a professional.

Whatever your age, background, race or culture, you are not alone. Together we can go walk the journey and explore what could be going on for you both. Being heard and talking freely in a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space can be incredibly empowering in understanding who you are and how you can be more true to you within your relationship, whilst navigating your own path for growth and development.

I am passionate in what I do and committed to working ethically and safely with my clients to overcoming the challenges that we are presented with.

Ethical standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP ethical framework alongside undertaking regular professional development and supervision. I also hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Lorna at Relationship Counselling Swanley. Please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Lorna

 

Kay Doherty

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couple Counsellor

 

My name is Kay Doherty and I am a fully qualified couple counsellor at ‘Relationship Counselling Kent’.  I have a Higher Diploma in Relationship Counselling and an Externship in ‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’.  I am also a member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy).

My specialist area is relationship counselling, offering counselling to both heterosexual and same sex individuals and couples. I feel alive when new couples come with their individual issues, because each couple’s situation is so different. Working alongside couples as they develop a more secure base and a deeper connection with each other is extremely rewarding.

What is Emotionally Focused Relationship Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was founded in Canada by Dr. Sue Johnson and is now practised worldwide.  It provides therapists with researched based tools that will enable a couple to feel connected and safe, through secure attachment.  EFT asserts that relationship problems occur when couples have experienced emotional disconnection with their partner  – which, in turn leads to struggles in the relationship. These struggles can develop into negative cycles which are difficult to break.  EFT will support you to get past these cycles, re-connect and build a secure relationship bond together. EFT can also be used to address individual issues.

How an online couple counsellor can help you

During our first session I will I explain how online relationship therapy works. I will also talk about confidentiality and my method of storing files/notes etc answering any questions you might have. This will also be your opportunity to tell me about the issues that you each feel need addressing – from both perspectives. Then together, we will discuss a plan going forward.

As a ‘Person Centered’ counsellor I believe each individual knows exactly what is best for them, on an individual level and within the relationship. Then, with the proper support, I will help you find the ability to heal yourselves.  I consider myself to be non-judgemental and accept people for who they are and how they feel. I understand the need for empathy and will take the time to get to know where you both are in the relationship. By allowing you both the time and space to listen and really ‘hear’ each other will bring great insight into the relationship.

‘Emotionally Focused Therapy’ has equipped me with the skills to assist you in exploring any recurring, negative patterns in your relationship. I will support you in learning new patterns of communicating and help you achieve a healthy, secure bond.

The process of change during our relationship counselling sessions can be transforming; and it will enable you to reach a place where you really ‘get’ each other.  Moving your relationship forward more positively in the way you have chosen to do so.

After the couple therapy ends

I will have helped you develop the skills required to be aware and recognise how a particular behaviour might lead to you slipping back into the negative cycle again.  This will allow you the negative cycle into positive interactions.  You will be able to fully understand each other and feel re connected again. The negative cycle will be replaced with love, understanding and security.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the BACP ethical framework.  I regularly partake in professional development, have regular supervision and hold professional indemnity insurance.

If you are looking for an online couple counsellor and would like to make an appointment to see Kay. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Booking Request

 

Sally Cloke

Brabourne Practice

Couple Therapy Brabourne

 

Hello, my name is Sally Cloke and I am an experienced, BACP accredited integrative therapist and couple counsellor based at Couple Therapy Brabourne practice.

Sometimes couples view couple counselling as last resort. That’s because they may have been experiencing ongoing difficulties for a long time and  have reached a point where they are considering separation.

Alternatively, couples feel unsure that couple counselling is the right path for them. In my experience, a vast majority of couples find it a positive experience. Often reporting, that they wished they had started couple therapy many months /years before.

People seek help with their relationship for a variety of reasons. A vast majority of couples are hoping to make their relationship work better than it currently is. In which case, relationship counselling is highly successful. That is if both parties are willing to ‘really’ listen to their partner.  I will emphasise the importance of each seeing his or her contributions to the problems and the possible solutions going forward.

Other couples seek couple therapy for help in separating. If so, I will help you do so more amicably. Alternatively, some couples are not quite sure what they hope to achieve and will decide later, that’s also OK. I will tailor the sessions for what you are both hoping to achieve, even if you are unsure.

How I can help

My aim is to provide you and your partner with a safe and confidential setting to help you explore and progress your relationship. Regardless of your age, race, religious beliefs, gender identity or sexual orientation. I consider myself understanding and empathetic and I work with the ‘relationship’ rather than the individuals in an accepting and non-judgmental way.

I will help you improve the communication between you, effectively creating curiosity and support, rather than conflict. We will work together to help you to understand how you, and your partner. can express your individuality while simultaneously supporting your relationship. This is the art of differentiation. Once you’ve passed through the “we” of the romantic stage, successful differentiation is the key to an authentic and fulfilling longer-term relationship.

Common relationship issues include –

  • Misunderstandings and tensions resulting from differences in viewpoints
  • Experiencing a range of feelings including; resentment, anger, and anxiety
  • A lack of trust or loss of connection
  • Lack of intimacy
  • Infidelity
  • Difficulties arising with other family members

At Couple Therapy Ashford the sessions are divided between spending time with each couple together. Then individual conversations with each spouse.

If you would like to make an appointment to see Sally at Couple Therapy Brabourne then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent Request an appointment

 

 

Dr Tim Burns

Whistable Practice

Marriage Counselling Whitstable

 

My name is Dr Tim Burns. I’m a fully qualified relationship counsellor based at marriage counselling Whitstable. My training at ‘Tavistock Relationships’ led to me becoming an accredited practitioner in couple therapy for depression. Alos a BSc and MSc in psychology and a postgraduate diploma in ‘Integrative Psychotherapy’ for individual counselling.

My Experience

I have worked in the field of adult mental health for almost 15 years. The majority of which was within primary care mental health services. Alongside my own private work with couples.

Couples bring a variety of issues into therapy. For instance, infidelity, sexual difficulties, issues related to physical and mental wellbeing. In addition to, difficulties in work/life balance and managing each partners expectations of the relationship.

I have broad therapeutic experience which I draw upon to enrich my work. I have experience working with a diverse range of couples. Including those from differing socio-economic and cultural backgrounds. Through to same sex couples or where one or both have transitioned. I have worked with couples in the early stages of their relationship to those having been together for many decades.

How I can help

I provide a safe and supportive and non-judgemental space for you to talk through your issues. I will seek to build improved communication and understanding between you. My approach will allow you both the opportunity to explore your individual attachment styles. Above all, you will be provided the time to communicate your needs whilst building empathy and tolerance towards each other.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the ethical frameworks of both the BPS and the BACP. Alongside undertaking regular professional development and supervision. I also hold full professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at Marriage Counselling Whitstable. Please contact me via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Tim

 

 

Tracey Neale

Online Counselling Practice

Online Couples Therapy

 

Hello, my name is Tracey Neale and I’m an experienced, BACP accredited (British Association Counselling and Psychotherapy) ‘Integrative Counsellor’ offering online couples therapy for Relationship Counsellling Kent for both couples and individuals.

‘Integrative counselling’ means I use different therapeutic models depending, on each couple’s individual needs, or where they are in their therapeutic journey. This approach enables me to work with flexibility, tailoring my therapy for your unique situation.

How I can help

With over ten years’ experience counselling couples I will help you improve the communication between you. Firstly, through achieving a better understanding of any unresolved issues alongside exploring the complexities within your relationship. Secondly, I will gently challenge any negatives beliefs or patterns of behaviour that might be having a detrimental effect on your relationship.

My aim is to ensure you both feel comfortable enough to open up on both an honest, intimate level. This is will be achieved by providing you the time and space, not only to talk, but to really listen. The safety of the therapy room will hopefully encourage honesty and the opportunity to understand the issues from each other’s point of view.

By supporting you both through change, means you can begin to look towards a more positive future. When you invest time and energy into your counselling experience, it can be a positive step which brings about positive change.

My approach is non-judgmental and empathic. Most importantly, I respect every couples right to confidentiality.

Ethical Standards

I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.

If you would like to book an appointment to see Tracey for online couples therapy. Then please contact her via Relationship Counselling Kent today. Request to see Tracey

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