All of our relationship counsellors understand that it can feel like a big step deciding to go for couples counselling, especially as one of you might be resistant to attending. People often tell us that they feel they should be able to sort out their own problems
However, that isn’t easy when emotions run high, making it difficult to see the bigger picture as to what is going on between you. Rest assured, our relationship therapists provide a confidential, warm, safe, non-judgemental environment to help you relax and talk freely.
Your relationship counsellor will firstly ask you both what you hope to achieve out of the therapy and tailor the sessions in order to help you get there.
You will both be given the time and space to express how you feel, what you believe the problems are from your individual perspective and when they first started.
With your therapists help – you will both begin to really listen and understand what your partner is saying and feeling.
You will both be able to see the bigger picture of what is going on between you.
You will learn about yourselves and the role each of you play in the dynamics of the relationship
You will learn how to communicate more effectively
You will find out what is important to you
You find out how to bring back intimacy and loving feelings
You will learn how to manage your emotions and take responsibility for your own behaviour and the impact it has on the relationship
Relationship counselling sessions are 60 minutes long.
You don’t need to commit to a regular time, you can establish the times that will work for you around your other commitments.
Debbie Fletcher - Bromley "We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Debbie Fletcher and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Debbie – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas"
Debbie Fletcher - Bromley "Relationship counselling with Debbie in Bromley was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Debbie seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view"
Sian Jones - Ashford "We went to see Sian for some marriage counselling Ashford and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you!
Tara Cratchley - Tonbridge "The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Tara. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))"
Allie Markantonis - West Malling "It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"
Sian Jones - Ashford "We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)" "We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again"
Debra Osborne - Rochester "As you know Debra I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship"
Beverley Mears - Whitstable "Having Beverley help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much"
Sabine Hawkins - Birchington "We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Sabine made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time"
Sian Jones - Ashford "Thank you Sian for putting our marriage back on track!"
Sian Jones - Ashford "When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Sian made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Sian helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems"
Gaye Mitchell - Rochester "Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy Maidstone but Alison put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and with Alison help we are closer than ever"
Sian Jones - Ashford "I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at marriage counseling Ashford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel"
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Kent. Relationship Counselling Kent will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.
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