My name is Debbie Fletcher and I’m based at Marriage Counselling Bromley. I’m an experienced, BACP registered, Integrative Counsellor. Integrative counselling means, that I believe there are a number of different approaches to counselling. I understand that no one couple is the same, so no single theory is sufficient . Therefore I adapt my approach accordingly.
I understand that sometimes, people find it difficult to admit to having problems within their relationship. And that they have been unsuccessful in trying to sort them out on their own. It can feel like a big decision to seek professional help for your relationship. However, I have not yet had one couple tell me they regret it once they have taken the first step. In my experience, problems don’t go away when not discussed, they just fester until the relationship falls apart.
A ‘stuck’ relationship is one of the most common reasons that bring couples to marriage counselling. They keep going round in circles, repeating the same unhelpful patterns of communication and behaviour. Without help, it can be hard enough to identify that this is happening, let alone begin to change it without an understanding of what is going on behind it.
Individuals often complain about feeling not being listened to or that their partner misunderstands them. If this continues over a period of time it can lead to feelings of hurt, anger and resentment on one or both sides. Learning to communicate effectively, not only helps overcome any unresolved issues, it also prevents problems from developing in the future.
I offer a safe, unbiased and relaxed space, which will allow you both the opportunity to talk openly and honestly with each other in a way you may have not done for some time.
Relationship counselling isn’t about attributing blame, nor is it about me taking sides or forcing either one of you to take a particular course of action. It’s about helping you both develop a better understanding of each other, yourselves, and the role you both play in the relationship.
This new understanding will help you to continue to build closer, more honest, loving relationship going forward.
I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. I also undertake regular professional development and supervision as well as having professional indemnity insurance.
Debbie provides couple counselling Bromley, marriage counselling Bromley and relationship counselling Bromley.
If you would like to make an appointment to come and see me at Marriage Counselling Bromley. Please do not hesitate to contact me through Relationship Counselling Kent. Book an appointment with Debbie