A well kept secret…because discretion is everything
One of the UK’s Leading Relationship Counsellors Sian Jones is based at Relationship Counselling Kent talks about how she created a service enabling her high profile clients to resolve their relationship problems at home
With discretion being the core to her work, is it any wonder that marriage Counsellor, Sian Jones could be declared a well kept secret? Sian’s reputation has grown predominantly by word of mouth, as her clients perhaps confide in friends who are sworn to secrecy, as many of those couples choose to be counselled in the privacy of their own home.
Counselling at home may not be your everyday service but many of Sian’s clients are not necessarily your every day couples. In fact, many are high profile, well known individuals who work in the public eye, yet are experiencing problems in their relationship. However, the main difference for these couples is that at a time when they need to focus on their relationship, there is the added fear of being seen going to visit relationship counsellor and the negative publicity and added pressure that might follow.
Sian prides herself on the fact that her travelling to see clients at home has enabled some couples the privacy they desperately crave, whilst still allowing them access to help.
So, who is Sian Jones? It’s apparent upon meeting Sian that she breaks all the stereotypical views some might have about relationship counsellors. She is somewhat quirky, passionate, frank and warm. As her website rightly states ‘she has an exceptional ability to make people feel instantly relaxed and engaged’. Sian expresses her views ardently on what it takes to save a relationship and the ‘proof is the pudding’ – 98% of her first time clients re-book.
Prior to becoming a full time counsellor Sian’s background was in the corporate world of ‘Coca-Cola’ which she believes has contributed to her successby enablingher to take a common sense and proactive approach.
Sian’s career in counselling began down the more traditional route with couples attending appointments at one of her practices and this still continues today. However it was pure chance that led to her carrying out appointments in a couple’s home, A previous client contacted her and asked if she would be prepared to see a ‘celebrity friend’ of theirs in the privacy of their own home, to ensure the ultimate discretion. This was the start of Sian’s Home Appointments service which has grown ever since.
Sian’s experience has shown that if a couple are more relaxed in their own environment, they are much more likely to open up and this leads to a far greater success rate in getting relationships back on track. This has proved so successful that many of Sian’s clients often keep in touch with and ask her for ‘top up sessions’ after their initial counselling sessions, to enable them keep on track with all they have learnt.
Sian’s views of the world of celebrity differ to some perhaps, explaining how it saddens her, that how society in general places great importance on our ‘celebrity culture’ and there’s a hunger for celebrity ‘gossip’. Unfortunately, this often results in couples in the public eye being scrutinised for real or perceived cracks in their relationship which might lead to a good story in the media. We are all human at the end of the day and we all experience relationship ups and downs. Regularly heard comments such as ‘what do they expect, they are in the public eye’ or ‘they earn enough money they have to put up with it’ may well come with the territory. However, no amount of money can lessen the hurt someone feels when there relationship is troubled or ends up breaking down.
So what is the magic key in making a relationship work?’ “Act early and don’t wait until the rot has well and truly set in before getting help” Sian replied “Along with the bog standard answer of ‘good communication’ Of course this is absolutely true. but do we actually stop and think about what that really means? In my view, good communication means having the ability to see things from your partner’s perspective, particularly during an argument. You don’t necessarily have to agree with it, but you have to be able to at least see and understand it.. If we could all do that we would be well on the way to having happy, harmonious relationships and I would be out of a job!”
Find out more about the merits of relationship counselling at home with Sian Jones at Relationship Counselling Kent.